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29 is Coming! -- Goals!

1. Date myself twice a month
2. Travel abroad once a year
3. Travel domestically once a year
4. Pay off my credit card debt
5. Start taking dance classes again
6. Buy each of my friend 1 "just because" gift
7. Decrease my drinking/drinking budget
8. Tell myself I'm effing gorgeous and courageous every morning before I leave the house
9. Cook more
10. Buy a car
11. Relocate
12. Secure a full-time job in ministry
13. Save $4/day
14. Explore more shade of lipstick
15. Take 24-hours of silence bi-weekly
16. Produce worship content
17. Read individual chapters in books
18. Rebuild my Sunday routine
19. Go to Queen for good food
20. Be more patient with my mom
21. Let my hair grow out
22. Throw out clothes with holes and stains
23. Give away uncomfortable shoes
24. Get a real bed
25. Bless the things I hate about myself
26.  Open an online savings account (that I can't touch)
27. Get life insurance
28. Get renter's insurance
29. Live my best life!


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