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Uncle Butter

Today was Uncle Butter's funeral.

He was a kind man.
Giving, Caring, Gentle, Determined.
Those were just a few of the
many superlatives used to describe him.

I saw him last in his home on December 18th.
We talked and laughed.
He told me about his life's journey.
He reminded me that he was
keeping up with me on Facebook.
And of course,
before I left,
he made me take a picture by his
tiny Christmas tree.

Butter had a passion for photography!
I have so many photos of my
most intimate worship moments.
I have so many photos of me laughing
and smiling.
Butter's joy and enthusiasm for life
kept so many of us sain
when we couldn't see through the
depressive commotion of the hail and the fog.

He will be missed,
but I'm so grateful we crossed paths--
that I was blessed with his unfading smile,
his humor, his wit, his righteousness.

Well done, Butter.
Well done.

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